Does My Ex Still Love Me?

If you’ve just gone through a breakup, particularly if you’ve been dumped, one of the biggest questions you’re going to have is, “does my ex still love me?” If you know the answer to that, nothing else really matters. Your ex could be treating you horribly right now and it doesn’t matter because you know the real truth – and that truth is that they still love you.

But how do you know for sure? What are the signs that your ex still loves you?

1. You notice that they coincidentally turn up at the same social events that you do. Of course, it’s natural that this is going to happen given the fact that you both probably still have the same friends and social ties, however, you should watch carefully to see if your ex’s presence is a little more than coincidental. Once in a while is believable, but if it becomes frequent and predictable, then you may be dealing with someone who is still very much in love with you – or at the very least, can’t stop thinking about you.

2. They still “light up” when they see you. This should be very obvious because the transformation should be quite profound. One minute they may look completely bored and subdued, the next, they can’t stop smiling as you make an appearance. It’s as if a wave of happiness suddenly comes over them. They greet you with enthusiasm and there’s something about the way they’re staring at you that just says they are still very interested.

3. If you’re having a conversation with your ex and you notice they have a tendency to accentuate everything they say by touching you on the arm, shoulder, leg, or knee, then they probably still feel very close to you. They could be reaching out to you without making it look deliberate. This is a safe way for them to express how they feel because it can always be dismissed as innocent and casual. Of course this is going to make it difficult for you to read the situation properly.

4. They still stay in touch. Even if this is under the guise of friendship, the fact that they take the time to phone, email, or text message you says that you are still very much on their mind.

5. They can’t help sneaking a peak. If you’re in public, say standing around talking to some friends, and your ex is nearby, you may notice that they sneak glances at you when they think you’re not looking. If you catch them looking, they might turn away suddenly and appear to be a little embarrassed. They are embarrassed because now you know how they really feel about you.

6. Your ex still maintains ties with your family. Once you’ve split up, there’s really no need for them to keep contact with your family unless they still want to be a part of your life. Yes, it’s possible that they simply want to maintain a friendship with some of your family members, but it’s more likely that they just want to maintain that personal connection with you.

7. You hear through the grapevine that your ex is asking about you and wondering how you’re doing. This is easy enough to detect since you both probably still share a lot of the same friends. It is truly one of the best ways to find out how your ex feels about you. Yes, even though they are aware of the fact that it may get back to you, they are still likely to confide in a friend. In some cases, they may even do this on purpose knowing full well that it is likely to get back to you.

But the question remains, “does my ex still love me?” Well even though it isn’t a sure thing, you can be confident that if they are exhibiting some of the signs mentioned above, they are still carrying a torch for you – and it’s your job to read between the lines and decipher any messages they are trying to send your way.