Whether you realize it or not, your actions from the very beginning will determine whether there will ever be a chance for reconciliation. You need to make the right moves if you want to get your ex back. This is where most people make critical mistakes. By trying to “force” an outcome, they only succeed in making things much worse. The problem is, we allow our emotions to do our thinking for us. Here are 10 deadly mistakes that will kill any remnants of your relationship and ensure that your ex will have nothing to do with you – ever:
How to Get Your Ex Back - 10 Deadly Mistakes Mistake 1. You become overly emotional in their presence. Whether it involves crying, stomping your feet, lashing out in anger; the bottom line is that you are displaying a less than desirable side of you. Your emotions might make you appear desperate, needy, immature, or hostile – none of which will create desirability in the eyes of your ex. Mistake 2. You maintain contact. This is probably the biggest mistake people make after a breakup. While the logical thing to do would be to give your ex some space, your emotions take control and make a bad situation much worse. The most destructive thing you can do after a breakup is to continue phoning, texting or emailing your ex. Eventually, they may lose any feeling they still have towards you as well as any respect. Drunk Dialing is a perfect example of what not to do. Mistake 3. You try to strike a deal with them. This is doomed to failure right from the get-go. By making concessions and promising to change, you are taking a submissive role and only giving them more power. They broke up with you, so they are unlikely to change their mind because you bring a peace offering to the table. Do this, and you will lose even more dignity and self-esteem. Mistake 4. You make a grand gesture. In your desperate attempt to get them back, you decide to up the ante and ask them to move in, marry you, or go away on a romantic vacation. Even though you believe it’s what you both want and need, your ex is going to see through this in two seconds. Mistake 5. You decide to stalk them. Okay, stalk might be too strong a word, but the fact remains that many jilted lovers simply can’t take no for an answer. Ultimately, they decide that they need to see with their own eyes what is going on with their ex. This almost never ends well and could result in some very serious charges and legal problems. Mistake 6. You manipulate friends to do your dirty work. Usually this is a result of having zero success trying to contact your ex through normal channels. It might involve asking your friends about your ex, sending messages through your common acquaintances, or asking your friends to “put in a good word for you.” The thing is, your ex is going to see right through this shallow behavior and it’ll wind up hurting you in the long run. Mistake 7. You continue to maintain contact with your ex’s family. Even if you have no ulterior motive, it’s not a good idea to keep in touch with their family as if nothing has happened. It’s only going to add to the stress of an already uncomfortable situation – for everyone involved. Mistake 8. You attempt to get your ex back under the guise of friendship. You manipulate your ex into getting together as “just friends” and then you either attempt to talk them back into the relationship, or you make a romantic gesture or sexual advance. You’re only going to get a chance to do this once and it won’t end well. Mistake 9. You lose your temper. After weeks or months of emotional turmoil, and with no signs of progress, you decide to get your own back by having it out with your ex. This is the ultimate relationship killer. Think very carefully before you decide to tell your ex exactly what you think of them. Some things can’t be taken back – no matter what. Mistake 10. You attempt to blackmail them back into the relationship. Usually this tactic is based upon guilt. The idea is to make them feel, somehow, responsible for things that could happen to you – whether financially, emotionally, or physically. The ultimate ploy here would be if you threatened to harm yourself if they didn’t come back to you. This is actually more common than you think and is usually a last desperate attempt to get them back. Although you may get your ex’s pity, you’ll never create true romantic attraction by using these methods.
How to Get Your Ex Back - Next Steps Okay, so now that you know what not to do, you’ve got to concentrate on making a few key strategic moves to get your ex back. Let’s face it, playing it cool, staying away, and being aloof will only set the stage for a reconciliation. In order to actually create desire and rekindle those romantic feelings, you’ve got to have a game plan. I am including two links below - one for those looking to get a girlfriend/wife back - and one for those looking to get a boyfriend/husband back (Yes, there is a difference in technique). Take a minute, listen to the message, then read the entire page - it could change your life. To get your girlfriend/wife back - CLICK HERE To get your boyfriend/husband back - CLICK HERE
How to Get Your Ex Back - What it really takes
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We’ve all been there at one time or another. One minute
you’re sharing your life with the guy/girl of your dreams, the next, you’re reeling from the sudden shock that
it’s over – you have been dumped.