The real question is not is it possible to get back together with an ex, but more appropriately are you willing to do what it takes to get back with your ex? Many people do indeed get back together. We all go through tough times and as individuals we handle those things differently. Financial stress, infidelity, boredom, loss of a family member – any of these things can cause a huge amount of stress which can destroy a relationship if not managed properly. Getting back together, if it is to be successful, must involve first getting to understand the reasons why you broke up in the first place. The best way to do that is to not force things – give yourself and your ex some time to heal. In Brazil they have a saying that sometimes you just need to “deixar a poeira abaixar” – which means, “let the dust settle”. We stir up a lot of “dust” going through the breakup process – it is a very emotional and tough time. Before you even begin to contemplate trying to get back together, you need to first get your own head straight. How can you get back to being that person that you used to be? Strong. Confident. Happy. You’ll need all of those things to win back your ex. So, is it possible to get back together with an ex? Absolutely it is. But take the time to “let the dust settle” and approach your relationship with a new found exuberance – you’ll be glad you did (and so will your ex). |